Bullying at School

Is Your Child Being Bullied at School?

Would you like to find a way to ensure your child is never bullied again?

Imagine the difference in your child if they were able to go to school secure in the knowledge that no one could ever hurt them again? What would it be like to know that they could thoroughly enjoy school? What effect would it have on their school work and their future exam grades for them to be free of intimidation and harassment? How would they feel when they have learned how to solve all of their bullying problems for themselves?

How would it feel to know that you child was safe?

As a concerned parent, you obviously want to be able to take action to help your child. Perhaps you have discovered that your child’s school is either unwilling or unable to solve the problem. Perhaps you have found that a teacher is not taking the situation seriously enough and is not taking enough action. It can be frustrating to have the feeling that others are not doing all they can to help and protect your child and you can feel helpless, as if you are only a spectator having to put your trust into a system which you can see is not working.

This is an email I recieved from one parent who made the decision to book a training session with me:

Hiya Mark,

Sorry we haven't been in touch. James has been saying hes going to mail you and let you know how its going.

Well, the day you left we had a chat with James and he seemed very positive. That very evening though, he was on the internet and he discovered That one of the bullies was going to beat him up because someone had said James was coming on to his girl fiend. Despite trying to explain someone was setting him up he went into a panic and was crying and refusing to go to school and nothing we said seemed to have any effect. Anyway, despite the bad start we tried to explain to him even though he had two days of help from yourself nobody expects him to be a different person over night and not to expect too much too soon. Within a few day (and i mean 3 days) nothing phased him and he's a different person. He can't wait to go to school to see what they want to try next. It appears most of them have lost interest. James is enjoys the response he gets from the bullies when they see he is not bothered by their attempts to intimidate him.

He text me on the way to school the other day and said he was walking to the bus stop with a silly grim on his face and he felt that happy he wanted to dance around the land post. I'm glad he didn't - people who think he's mad!!!

We have got the old James back now - thanks to you. Let us know when we can leave feedback on your web site - it will be glowing feedback!!!!

I will ask James to send you a mail tonight so you can hear it from him.

Thanks again Mark - your a saviour.”

Alison
South Wales

What does your child feel?

Let’s take a moment to consider what your child goes through when they are bullied. Whether the bullying is physical or mental, it hurts. It doesn’t matter whether you are being insulted, called names, humiliated, spat on, physically hit or any other form of bullying, it all amounts to you feeling bad about yourself. How does this affect everything else?: your school work?, your home life? your relationships with friends and family? The more you bullying you receive, the more impact it has.

When you imagine your child going to school,and you see the effects of the bullying, what do you notice? If the bullying continues into next week, next month, next year what impact does this have? Now imagine that you have found a way to ensure the bullying stops now. What changes do you see? What do you see next week, next month, next year?

Fortunately, there is a solution which is fast, effective and available to you right now.

Hi mark its james, im sorry i haven't emailed you i just felt i wanted to give it a while to work and test things out. Let me start of by saying how happy i now am in school, i wake up in the mornings and look forward to going to school, i find my self walking down the street or just anywhere with a big smile on my face for no aparent reason and it feels great. I see the usual culprates in school and they haven't changed a bit, the only thing that has changed is they seem to be taking it up a level which is fine by me because i walk past them now with a big smile on my face and to be prefectly honest its getting a bit boring now and to be honest very sad on there part im the one walking around the school with the big simle on my face and freinds who truley like me for the person who i am and not because i go around scaring people into being my freind and that is what they are doing so in my eyes they are the ones who need help. i would like to thank you for evrything you have done for me, before this i felt as if there was no hope and the remainder of my school life was going to be a missery but thanks to you and the tools you have give me that is no longer the case. I also feel i will be able to use this in the future and prevent anything like this from starting again.I am also interested in doing a simliar job like you and i would very much like to go down that road and am doing some reasearch into it at the moment.

James (15)
South Wales

Isn’t it the school’s responsibility?

All schools in the UK have anti-bullying policies. The government is spending far more on bullying than they ever have in the past and yet the statistics have not changed. 1 in 4 children are still bullied in UK schools and 1 in 12 and bullied to an extend where their lives are seriously affected. It may interest you to know that teachers (along with nurses) are the most likely to be bullied in the workplace. If teachers are bullied more than everone else how can we expect them to prevent our children from being bullied?

Sadly, although some schools are making a difference when it comes to anti-bullying strategy, most are not. It’s good to see schools increasing the number of teachers on corridor duty, or playground duty, but this does not prevent bullying. It just makes the bullies change venue.

Schools also have a problem because of the ‘burden of proof’. When one child accuses another of bullying it is very hard for the school to do anything about it. If there is no evidence then it becomes one child’s word against another. Often both children are questioned and the child who received the bullying is subject to an interrogation to find out if they are lying. This is a hugely discouraging system for a child who has plucked up enough courage to tell a teacher. As a result, most prefer to suffer in silence.

What is the answer?

The only way to ensure that your child cannot be bullied is to make sure your child receives training in the key skills that will empower them to change the way people treat them. Once your child know the skills needed to influence people in confrontational or abusive situations they will be able to stop the bullying for good.

The Training

I can show you child how to make themselves ‘bully proof’. No matter what anyone tries to do to them, they will be able to feel good about themselves. Insults will ‘bounce off’ and they will be able to truly not care what anyone says about them. The bullies will notice a strong difference in your child and will realise that they cannot hurt them anymore. I will teach your child how to completely remove the bullies’ incentives to bully. The bullies will simply lose interest.

The training is designed to be fun. Fun makes learning easy. Some children learn quickly and others take longer. That’s okay, I will work with your child for as long as it takes to ensure that their new found skills and strategies are airtight.

Hi Mark

Results are good! The bullying has completely stopped! I can’t believe what a difference this has made. Samantha still wants to move class but the girls are leaving her completely alone. The skills you have taught her will be so useful to her througout her entire life. Thank you so much!

Janet
Manchester

Imagine having booked a training session with me. Imagine that I have come to your home and have explained everything at the beginning of the session. We train as a group and also I spend some time working just with your child. You and your child both learn a huge amount of new skills and techniques and have a lot of fun along the way. By the end of the session your child feels confident that they will be able to use their skills and techniques effectively and you feel fully able to support them with any situation.

What is the alternative? Are you planning to leaving things for a while? To wait and see if things improve by themselves? Hope that the school gets its act together and solves the problem for you? Maybe you’ll look at the free advice available from charities? Perhaps you’ll try to change things by speaking to the parents of the bullies?

Realistically, the longer you allow the bullying to go on for, the more pain and suffering your child will endure. Often parents only book me after a serious incident which could easily have been avoided. Do you really have to wait until things get worse?

How will it feel to know that you child is able to deal effectively with every confrontation situation? When the bullying has stopped, think of how positive the differences you see in your child are. How much happier will they be? How much more energy will they have? How much more confidence will they have? What differences will it make in their social lives? How well will it help prepare them for adulthood?

How Much Does It Cost?

This is specialist training and I charge accordingly. Your child can learn all the skills they need to make the bullying stop for £279 (plus minimal travel expenses, if necessary). By now, you can see how valuable this training will be to you and your child. It will change your lives.

If, after your training session, you are not completely satisfied that it will make a significant, positive difference in your life then I will give you a full refund so that you can spend your money on something you think will be more effective.

I accept payment by cheque, Google checkout and Paypal.

Call me now to book a training session on 0845 257 6436

email me: mark@bullyingfullstop.co.uk

Mark, We really cannot thank you enough for changing our lonely unhappy son back to the happy boy he always was. Our house is such a happy one again now and I feel I am sleeping better knowing he is enjoying going to school and looking forward to his G.C.S.E.s without any worries from those ‘bullies’.
We hope your business is really successful. It was the best money we have ever spent. Take care and we will be in touch.

A very grateful
Pauline & John